I seldom felt connected to any community for as long as I can remember. Through coaching, I learned that humans share similar challenges and insecurities. We are all humans–alike and individualistic in our unique ways. I want to share two habits that helped me connect to what matters and be a more effective leader.
Habit 1: Ask 1-2 questions about the person’s well-being
To expand my leadership capacity, I needed to embrace the ‘being’ side of leadership: developing better relationships with myself and others. I often worked from my headspace and embraced the ‘doing’ side of leadership: driving for results. I made this shift by intentionally asking 1-2 questions about someone’s well-being at the beginning of each encounter. The more I opened up and shared, the easier it was to accept my imperfection and vulnerability. The more I shared, the more others shared, and I became more trusting of myself and others. I could enjoy their company and be myself. By connecting with others, I was less afraid to be vulnerable in front of them. It became easier for me to embrace the ‘being’ side of leadership.
Habit 2: Acknowledge people’s positive qualities
I saw people’s flaws more often than their positive attributes. To be less critical of others, I made it a habit to acknowledge the positive qualities I saw in people. I rewired my neural pathways to focus on positives. My colleagues, friends, and family felt heard and seen as a result of my acknowledgments. These deeper connections have helped me feel part of a community and happier.
If what I share resonates with you, let’s chat. I would like to hear your story and help you create habits and rituals to reconnect to what matters and lead with confidence from the inside out.
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